How Do You Deal?

Today’s post is going to be a little different. No reviews, hauls or anything like that. I want to talk about something that many people in this world deal with on a daily basis….ANXIETY! This is something that I have had to deal with the older I have gotten. I remember being 18 years old, just graduated high school, and my dad and step-mom were taking me and a friend to Mexico to celebrate. We spent a week there and had tons of fun. One of the things we did was go snorkeling. I remember I loved seeing all of the fish and not having any issue with being out in the water.  Now, I am a total mess! It takes everything I have to get in the water. Sometimes if I am driving in bad weather or around a bunch of traffic, my chest will tighten up a bit. It’s not all the time, just sometimes, so I am not really sure what triggers my anxiety in those cases. Now, there are days, like yesterday, that my chest will hurt all day long because of certain people and certain situations and I think about things way too much. I have really tried figuring out ways to block a lot of the thoughts, but I am having a difficult time. I have started praying about this and really just ask for help. I tend to think about the negative things when I am sitting around without anything else to do and I know I really need to overpower those thoughts with positive ones, but man it’s hard! So, I am curious how many of you suffer from this and how do you get through it or deal with it?

I hope you have a bad Ash day!! 🙂

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12 thoughts on “How Do You Deal?”

  1. I really liked this post. I feel like everyone gets anxiety sometimes! The way deal with it is I #1 tell someone I trust (aka my husband) bc my anxiety is always worse if I bottle it up #2 try to remember positives about the situation #3 pray pray pray for peace and understanding.
    Thanks so much for sharing!


  2. Good for you to write such a post! I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression for years. OK, I’ve left my days of being depressed far behind (I think it might have been the pill I was on back then – microgynon – and a severe B12 deficiency). But I still experience anxiety attacks. In all honesty, I’ve learned to live with anxiety because it keeps me safe. I have had so many attacks over the years. But I’ve really learned from them. Like when I’m driving (I alway drive with my doors locked) and I think someone is following me. It makes my heart race and it scares the living daylights out of me. So what do I do? I drive to the nearest police station and stop on the forecourt. When I feel safe again, I drive home – often via a weird route – just to be sure. I know this sounds nuts to a lot of people, but I think that if someone was really followoing me, I DID shake them off – because who would want to try anything in front of a police station? And I know I’ve actively done something to avoid falling victim to god knows what. So I AM in control.

    I think there is nothing like THE right way to deal with anxiety attacks in general. And if you feel like your chest is about to explode, you can’t think clearly anyway. I always tell myself not to panic (step 1) and to think (step 2). It helps me because I know it’s a simple 2-step-system (coming up with an actual idea can be tough, but by the time I’m thinking, I’m already following the 2-step-system) For me it’s like, if I have to get out of the car, or drive / go some place, or make a call to someone (or whatever), then I do it. If I feel someone might be following me on the way from the train station to my home, I turn around every 5 seconds to keep an eye on who’s behind or near me. And I let people see that I’m looking at them, that I’m aware of them. If I think someone is dodgy, I might go to the bus stop to be near a group of people – and I’d keep an eye on the person I think is dodgy. Or I might continue to walk and fake a phone call saying something like “oh, you can already see me?” – hoping this would deter anyone from trying anything.

    So my anxiety is usually about the weird feeling that someone is after me (I’ve had this for 20 years…). What I’m saying might not help you at all, but I hope you see that you can at least somewhat control what’s happening during an attack. Like when the traffic is horrible and the weather is bad – maybe you could take a different route. Or maybe you could stop, get out of the car for a few minutes and gather yourself? But don’t feel ashamed to see your GP about the matter. Let your GP do blood tests (you wouldn’t believe how an undetected, yet easy-to-treat B12 deficiency almost ruined my life…) and speak to the doctor about your options. And don’t ever t be ashamed! Reach out and talk about your anxiety. xoxo


    1. Thank you so much for responding to my post! Sometimes I get those feelings of ppl watching me or being after me. Like I leave early in the mornings when it’s pitch black to go to the gym. As soon as I get in my truck, I lock myself in. Or if it’s dark and the blinds on my windows are open, it totally freaks me out because I can just imagine someone on the other side watching. One of my other followers suggested the essential oils that are really big right now, I may try them. I have heard some good things. Jaclyn Hill, YouTube, had talked about her anxiety in one of her videos and actually mentioned using certain oils and claims it has helped her, Helps calm her down.

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      1. I hope the oils will work for you. But if in doubt, see your GP and at least have blood tests done. Something as simple as a vitamin deficiency can wreak havoc with your brain. I was totally unaware I had a B12 deficiency. I have trouble absorbing nutrients from food (which I also didn’t know) – so I’m getting B12 shots because taking vitamin pills wouldn’t even have helped (due to the malabsorption issue). So yeah, see how the oils are working out, but you should consider seeing your GP nonetheless – just to be on the safe side. xoxo


  3. Thanks for sharing. I deal with anxiety on a daily basis as well. I way over think everything. I’m always thinking of “what ifs”. I’ve been asked if it was stress instead of anxiety but I know the difference. Anxiety hurts, stress doesn’t. For me anyway. I think I’m getting better at “dealing” with anxiety but sometimes I can be sitting on the couch watching tv and all of a sudden I’ll have a panic attack, out of nowhere. I don’t know what triggers mine either.


    1. Luckily I don’t deal with them every day, yet, but it’s still a horrible feeling. I get stressed out sometimes, which may eventually cause some anxiety, but I’m like you, I know the difference.


  4. Aloha my dear!
    I wanted to take the time out to that I applaud you for this brave post which I am sure a lot of people can relate to. I am grateful that I don’t have to deal with anxiety but being a psychologist I know it is very common and you are not alone!

    Have you looked into daily meditation (sometimes 5 min in the morning and 5 min in the 5min in evening) can be very soothing for the mind and just calms down a busy mind?

    In a more acute situation certain breathing techniques (in combination with certain essential oils) can be successful.

    I hope I could help and wishing you a positive day. Thank you for sharing.



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